Slow down. Breathe. Everything is going to be all right, Mama.
Everyone may be taking, taking, taking. And you may be giving, giving, giving. Will you ever run out of something to give?
How much of yourself can you give without losing yourself? Everyone always wants your best, but what if your best has run out?
You can’t take care of everyone else if you don’t know how to take care of yourself along with them. Sometimes having so many people depending on your care can get tough. It can get tiring, overwhelming, and just plain annoying. You will become frustrated and not so great to be around. People will walk over you, take advantage of your nature, and just forget about who YOU truly are. Especially, if they don’t appreciate you.
Of course, caring for your family is apart of the “Mama Job Description”. But taking care of yourself is there too.
It’s mostly overlooked, because we don’t think about ourselves most of the time. We always think about how everyone else is feeling, what moods everyone is in, or what we can do to make everyone else happy. Our attitude is “Happy Family, Happy Mama.” When REALLY, the saying goes,
Because if you are happy, you will be more willing to make everyone else happy.
What? Is that allowed as a Mama? Yes! In fact, I highly recommend it!
There may be so much to be done. You may have a dirty house and whining kids. But that time of resting on the couch is okay too. If you have a dirty house and feel like you need to clean, bring your laundry over to the couch, turn on those soap operas, and REST while you fold those clothes. If you have whiny kids, bring them over to the couch and cuddle with them while you sit down and rest.
Relaxing is actually proven to help you solve problems better, refreshing your inspiration, and just being a better YOU. Of you are a better you, then you can better help everyone else.
Taking time out of your busy day to exercise may be out of the question. But what if I told you that you don’t have to take time OUT of your day to do so?
Incorporate exercises into what you do during the day. Are you vacuuming? Swing those hips while you push that vacuum! Are you playing with the kids? Get down on the floor on your back and put them up on your feet and call them a superhero and I bet they will have fun! Are you going to work? Park a good ways away from your work place and get a good walk in. Once you make those things a habit, you will for sure start seeing a difference in your energy levels and when you have high energy levels, the more stuff you’ll want to get accomplished… including taking care of others.
Also, being careful with what you eat and how much you eat. Junk food is easy, I get it. But changing out those potato chips with some crunchy carrots or celery with peanut butter is a much better solution to feeling better.
Another thing, buying self care products like make up, face wash, lotions, and hair products. Those are ways to pamper yourself, but they can also be boosters for feeling better about yourself. Feeling better about yourself helps you feel better about how much you can help others.
Okay, let’s be honest. I know you probably LOVE taking care of your family. I do too! This is about something that you enjoy doing that only benefits you! Mine is reading, writing, and blogging. Those are my hobbies. Yours may be cooking, knitting, organizing, shopping, going out with friends, or something like that. Something that helps clear your mind and refreshes your soul. DO THAT!
If you have a clear mind, then it will help you be able to fill it up with more ways to better care for others.
You’re probably thinking that you don’t have time to do any of these three things, but I’m here to tell you: make time! Wake up earlier than everyone else or if you’re not a morning person and your schedule calls for it, stay up later than everyone else. I personally recommend waking up earlier because it has helped me tremendously. But that might not be best for your lifestyle.
Do what’s best for you while being selfless and taking care of everyone else! It’s okay to add yourself on that list of who you have to take care of. That is allowed. Don’t let yourself get in the way of yourself.
Take care of everyone else! But most importantly: